This week is my ’50 Shades of Grey’ anniversary. I read the trilogy for the first time this week last year. I know that for most in the BDSM lifestyle 50 Shades is a swear word, but it means the exact opposite to me. I won’t try and convert you to why I love the story and why the writing style doesn’t bother me. This novel, however, helped me to realize that I am a sexual submissive. I didn’t use this book as the be all end all of BDSM resources, I used it as a jumping off point to further exploration into what the lifestyle has to offer. People have life changing experiences all the time. Some when they visit a new city, or when they become parents. This was my first personal awakening brought on by a book, but it was an amazing experience.
After reading these books Sir and I had a large relationship shift. We both used the story to help us talk to each other and come to an agreement about how we want to change our sex life. Finding a common resource like that was invaluable to us as we embarked on these drastic changes in our relationship. It’s not perfect, but we took something away that most don’t.
I swear I am not trying to sell more copies of this book (not that E.L. James needs my help). I guess I am trying to sell the experience that I had reading it. Going through that kind of life changing event is something that I hoped to have when I did my study abroad semester. Even through various moves and our growing family, it was this book that brought about this epiphany. So these types of realizations can happen when you least expect it. Always be open to trying something new and don’t be afraid of what may come out of it. I ended up in bondage.
So…ready for my cheesy line for the day:
Don’t judge a book by its cover.