Chasing Me Chasing You

An uncollared submissive struggling through depression, motherhood, and the constant craving of her next orgasm.

The Key to Happiness

Step One: Find someone you want to fuck.

Pretty obvious and relatively easy. If you have a romantic notion or were raised by Disney, you are going to have a tougher time. I was lucky enough to have the romantic notion and still find the perfect guy for me. And don’t worry, Sir has fucked out all of the Disney.

Step Two: Marry them.

This step is optional, but a good tax incentive none the less. For us it was an easy choice. We had a great party, I got a pretty diamond, and we only went into a small amount of debt.

Step Three: Take six years to figure it out.

Don’t get me wrong, our sex was always good. But with both of us going through grad school, moving four times, and two pregnancies, life happens. We have both changed so much since we met, but we haven’t grown apart. I hate to admit this, because people in the lifestyle will laugh, but Fifty Shades of Grey changed me. I’ll confess everything in a post someday, but let’s just say that the book made me consider a different part of myself. A lot of research and a confession from Sir that he has always had an interest in a BDSM lifestyle brought us to now. A long journey to be sure.

Step Four: Fuck until your dick falls off.*

Repeat, repeat, dear god repeat.

Step Five: Profit.

I wouldn’t change our journey for anything and I am so happy we made it here. I am jealous of those out there who knew who they were in their early twenties, who have all the experience and the social standing in the community. But we’ll get there. And we will just keep repeating step four until we do.

*No dicks were harmed (too badly) in the writing of this post. I mean, I’m sure it’s really sore today, but I’m almost positive that it hasn’t fallen off. He would tell me.

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9 Responses to “The Key to Happiness”

  • Ally Angel

    Love your blog. I just found you though The Power Exchange and I just couldn’t stop reading your posts. 50 Shade pulled me into to the new possibilities for my husband and me. We have been married 18 years and have 3 boys…TTWD/BDSM has been a challenge(more for him than me) but we are moving forward. Thanks for your encouraging words and I look forward to following your posts.

  • CollaredMom

    Thank you so much for your support. I always hate admitting that 50 Shades opened my eyes, but at the same time I’m not ashamed of it. Better that than not having found something that makes me this happy. Good luck in moving forward and thanks again for your kind words.

  • Velvet Rose

    Oh this is brilliant and made me smile.

    50 Shades got such a bad rap from many people in the lifestyle but here is a perfect example of the good it has done for some! If you had not had that input I wonder where your relationship may have gone, if your mind had not been opened to an alternative for you to experiment with…

    Velvet x

    • Rye

      I certainly wouldn’t encourage anyone to follow the Christian/Ana wrecking ball style BDSM relationship, but it gave me a starting point of what is out there and I was able to find the rest quite easily. It’s amazing to me how much information is right beneath the surface. If you don’t want to find it, you never see it, but the second you go looking for it, it’s everywhere.

      I’m glad it made you smile. Looking back at this twisted road often makes me chuckle quite a bit.

  • Marie Rebelle

    This really is a wonderful post! Everything you say is actually so obvious, but sometimes it’s just necessary to say it. Like you, I admire the women who knew exactly who they were and what they wanted in their twenties. I only discovered that after I turned 40 and am still discovering different facets of me.

    Thanks for sharing this 🙂

    Rebel xox

    • Rye

      Thanks. It’s a weird journey, but I can’t imagine anyone in this lifestyle had a boring path to BDSM. I find it fun to hear how everyone found their way here.

  • Modesty Ablaze

    Wonderful post . . . and I would say never be jealous of anyone who says they knew it all at twenty. How could they? Surely we all learn from every experience we encounter as we go along? I know I have . . . and it’s been fun every time I’ve discovered, and learnt, something new!
    And . . . it just continues to get better and better with every new year . . . and every new experience.
    I’m sure you will find (and enjoy) the same!!!
    Xxx – K

  • Cammies on the Floor

    Love these steps, especially step four. And there is nothing wrong with how you got here, the important thing is that you’re here and happy.

    • Rye

      Thanks. On bad days I go back and read this and remember how far we have come. And as hard as this can be sometimes, it is so worth it.


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