Chasing Me Chasing You

An uncollared submissive struggling through depression, motherhood, and the constant craving of her next orgasm.

Evolved Relationships

I started about ten different posts on Trust for this week’s Wicked Wednesday post. All with the same general statements about BDSM and trusting your partner. I wasn’t really happy with any of them. It’s the same stuff everyone writes about. I trust him to beat me and take care of me. He trusts me to let him. I’m not trying to make fun of that stuff, it is important.

But trust is more than that. It’s pushing, pulling, forcing. It’s draining everything I have because he wants it. It’s taking and taking and taking and knowing that I will always give more.

How do you put a name to that kind of trust? It’s more than a marriage, more than a relationship. It’s a connection. It sounds cheesy, I know. But you can have these connections with many people; you don’t have to be married or even committed (in traditional sense). Dominant/Submissive relationships are special.

See, we’re not a depraved section of society. We maintain relationships that, when done correctly, require complete trust and honesty. I would love to see the statistics of D/s relationships that end due to infidelity. I get that people fall out and grow apart. But if a Dominant and Submissive are being honest and trust each other with the truth, then maybe it’s not as messy as traditional relationships. Is that crazy?

I’ll just pretend that since we’ve entered the world of kink that Sir and I are more evolved somehow. That this step into BDSM is a higher connection for the two of us requiring more than the standard amount of trust. Or, maybe I just want to feel better about being called a sexual deviant in modern society. I’m cool with running with the evolved theory.

Wicked Wednesday

5 Responses to “Evolved Relationships”

  • Marie Rebelle

    I like your theory of being more evolved 🙂

    Rebel xox

  • Molly

    The trust I have within my D/s relationship is way beyond anything I have ever shared with someone before!


  • Kayla Lords

    I like the more evolved thing. It’s rare to come across a vanilla relationship with the depth of trust and communication that a healthy D/s relationship has. I know it’s possible, but it’s not the norm. I am both annoyed and sad when vanilla friends and family tell me what they hide from their partner. It no longer makes sense to me – I tell him everything, big or small. We trust each other completely because we’re so open with each other. And I feel sorry for people who don’t have that – regardless of whether they’re vanilla or kinky.

    • CollaredMom

      I agree. He knows when I have bad gas, but vanilla friends of mine hide bank accounts and speeding tickets. I didn’t have a lot of secrets before BDSM, but now, nothing is too mundane or too personal.


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