I started about ten different posts on Trust for this week’s Wicked Wednesday post. All with the same general statements about BDSM and trusting your partner. I wasn’t really happy with any of them. It’s the same stuff everyone writes about. I trust him to beat me and take care of me. He trusts me to let him. I’m not trying to make fun of that stuff, it is important.
But trust is more than that. It’s pushing, pulling, forcing. It’s draining everything I have because he wants it. It’s taking and taking and taking and knowing that I will always give more.
How do you put a name to that kind of trust? It’s more than a marriage, more than a relationship. It’s a connection. It sounds cheesy, I know. But you can have these connections with many people; you don’t have to be married or even committed (in traditional sense). Dominant/Submissive relationships are special.
See, we’re not a depraved section of society. We maintain relationships that, when done correctly, require complete trust and honesty. I would love to see the statistics of D/s relationships that end due to infidelity. I get that people fall out and grow apart. But if a Dominant and Submissive are being honest and trust each other with the truth, then maybe it’s not as messy as traditional relationships. Is that crazy?
I’ll just pretend that since we’ve entered the world of kink that Sir and I are more evolved somehow. That this step into BDSM is a higher connection for the two of us requiring more than the standard amount of trust. Or, maybe I just want to feel better about being called a sexual deviant in modern society. I’m cool with running with the evolved theory.