Did you start out as a D/s relationship when you first met or was it something you agreed to later? Have you always been a kinky couple? And also because I’m terribly nosey – are you British or American? (or both) – DelFonte
We did not start with a D/s dynamic. Sir and I have been together for nine years, married for seven. But we are really diving into BDSM full tilt this year. Throughout 2014 we were dipping our toes in, but being pregnant and moving put a hold on a lot of things. Now that we are settling in, I cannot see us going back to vanilla, ever.
Although the D/s is relatively new, we have always been pretty kinky. We dabbled in switching for the last few years and I have always been a fan of bondage.
I thought this month was all about being nosey? Trust me, my nationality is probably one of the last things that would be off limits. I am American. I did live in England and attend school in 2000 for a semester when my mother came here to teach. I consider myself quite the Anglophile. I did my study abroad semester in Scotland and got engaged in Edinburgh in 2007. Given the chance I would move the family here, but for now holidays when finances allow will have to do.
Would you share something about submission that surprised you? -Jz
How easy it was. I know that seems strange, and it was for me. I consider myself a strong person. I have accomplished and been through a lot on my own. So, even though I was interested in a D/s dynamic with Sir, I thought I was in for a rough transition. And it just, wasn’t. I have never felt more comfortable than I am when I am kneeling for him. My sex drive has sky rocketed, I sleep better on nights when we play, I have more energy and motivation to accomplish things outside the bedroom. I am constantly surprised not only how much my submission has touched all aspects of my life, but, more importantly, at how much I want it to.
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