Chasing Me Chasing You

An uncollared submissive struggling through depression, motherhood, and the constant craving of her next orgasm.

My Clark Kent

I’m kind of an exhibitionist. I’m fine to post pictures of me completely naked, or tell really embarrassing and sordid stories about myself. Everyone has bits of themselves that they aren’t comfortable with and stories where they don’t come out looking great. I guess I just find that people commiserate with my body image issues and I can help push past them by posting pictures I actually like.

But that is me. CollaredMom is an adjective, not an identity. Being submissive is who I am, and I’m pretty open about it. My persona online is a protection for my family and our life.

Sir has been very supportive of my blog. He enjoys reading my interpretation of our scenes and personal issues that I am dealing with. It’s been a great way for us to communicate and address issues that arise between us. But there are limits in how much he is exposed.

He is an attorney. I’m not really sure what else I need to say.

He has been very cautious about how his professional and personal life meet. And while he supports my comfort and willingness to tell you every facet of our lives, he has to play his hand a little closer to his chest. He isn’t ashamed, but he has to consider his clients and his reputation.

So I can’t use names (obviously). My twitter feed has to be limited on information and I can’t post pictures of our faces. I’m not sure I have even posted a picture of Sir at all. I can be general, but I have to be careful. A few times I have had to go back and edit posts per his order to remove information he found too specific.

I understand his point. I get that while I am fine for people to know who I am and I am not worried about judgement or comment, he cannot be so flippant with his lifestyle choices. He isn’t ashamed of me or our relationship, that’s all that matters to me. And I will follow his rules however he likes.

With that in mind, if you happen to know me, or something in my post (or photos) leads you to ‘discover’ our secret identities, please keep it to yourself. I appreciate you respecting my Sir’s wishes to remain anonymous in his public life.

Some secret identities need to be kept secret.


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8 Responses to “My Clark Kent”

  • Marie Rebelle

    I can totally appreciate why you keep personal details from your posts, especially since your husband is an attorney. Your plea in the last paragraph shouldn’t be necessary, as people should just respect other people’s lives and not try to ruin it, but unfortunately some people just enjoy hurting others. I hope this never happens to you.

    Rebel xox

    • Rye

      As much as I assume that people would respect my and my husband’s privacy, sometimes you have to be clear and blunt. It’s my choice to put our life out there, not his. If I were making money doing it, maybe it would different.

      I hope it never happens too. Thanks.

  • Velvet Rose

    I get this totally, I have to keep things totally annoymous due to my work as well as for my life partner’s situation both personally and workwise.

    The last paragraph should not be necessary but sometimes it is a good idea to just put it out there and say it as it is from your viewpoint and that I respect and understand.

    Velvet x

    • Rye

      I considered putting something on the side screen of the blog, but it seemed pretty redundant. It should be obvious that I’m not advertising myself, but you never know.

  • Flip

    I always try to be careful as to who knows about my blog/kink twitter etc, I tend only to communicate, under my kink guise, with those of a similar persuasion. I just feel more comfortable there, spend most of my time there etc
    Most of my blog posts are sufficiently vague that should someone I know in the vanilla world stumble upon it, they wouldn’t immediately recognise me, although I do have a couple of face shots on there.
    Everyone’s right to anonymity should be respected, no questions asked


    • Rye

      I agree. And I think that for the most part, people within the lifestyle respect that. I am more worried about someone randomly stumbling on my blog that knows me rather than being outed by anyone in the community.

  • Molly

    I know that I am very lucky that being out is not an issue for us. It does make like so very much easier not having to worry about that. It makes me sad that we live in a world were being open about your sexuality is still so frowned upon but I think it is slowly changing. I think Kink and BDSM is the Gay and Lesbian community of 50 years ago, persecuted for their sexuality but hopefully in time, like that community, we can stand together and create acceptance among society


    • Rye

      I agree and certainly hope you are right. I think when Sir is established and comfortable I his firm, we may decide to be more lax in our openness. If nothing else I will look forward to it when we retire.

      I am happy for you two that you can be open now. You obviously have a wonderful relationship, it is nice that you are able to share it.


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