I don’t know how to be a dominant. I am organized and I have high expectations, but that doesn’t translate to a FLM. I think it will be a lot harder for me to make a dominant headspace work. But I want to do what I can to help him focus on his career right now. But, in that same vein, how do I do that? Can I tell him to help me with housework? Or to buy me a gift just because I want to be spoiled?
The idea of this switch set up is to help both of us stay focused. Helping me to process my sexual energy better. Maybe I’ll masturbate on Skype and make him watch. But that won’t be being very supportive of his workload.
We have been using my organizational strengths as part of my slave responsibilities. I pay the bills and manage our budget, but I would still need to ask for permission to spend. So, turning that around for half the day could be confusing. It’s possible that some things may have to stay in a sub headspace. So I have already started to think about how I can compartmentalize these two frames of mind. As well as my job, the kids, and the renovation.
I don’t want to screw this up. I want to give it my full attention and focus. I have my reservations about my own abilities, but I need to show him that I’m serious about wanting to make things work. And if that means not getting to be a slave 24/7, then I can live with that. Honestly, if I can do this, then I believe that it will make my time as a submissive better. More fulfilling as I will helping him to be as satisfied as I am. I just want him to be happy. And I’m worried that I will ruin it.
He wants me to think about a name for myself. His organizer. It doesn’t have to be a dominant name. But I will run his life during the day so he can run mine at night. Not sure of a good name for that. Miss Secretary doesn’t quite sound fun enough. Mistress sounds too formal. And Rye puts me in my slave headspace, so I want to stay far away from that. I will take suggestions.