Chasing Me Chasing You

An attempt to balance children, work, and my husband without losing my submission and myself.

Make-Up Sex

You know when you really screw up. You say something dumb and really hurt your partner’s feelings. And a fight/serious conversation ensues. You may attempt to justify your actions, you may just try various ways to apologize. Either way, hopefully, before it’s too late in the evening, your point is made and you are forgiven. Maybe just a misunderstanding or an honest mistake, but you’re past it. How do you reconnect and reassure each other that you’re both past this hiccup? For many couples, sex is a great way to do that. It shows trust and care for the other person that may have been rattled.

So last night I had make-up sex with myself. I was horrible to me yesterday. I doubted my worth and spent the day not letting myself get motivated to do anything. It was soul crushing. And as much as I would love to blame my period or the new year, I honestly don’t know why I was doing it. It was destructive and painful. And every time I tried to rationalize it to myself as being Sir’s fault or something I couldn’t control it just made it worse.

Anyway, I gave myself a moany, squirty orgasm. The kind where I had to lay out a towel to sleep on afterward and I will change the sheets today. It was ok. I mean, it was awesome, but an ok kind of awesome. I think I still have trust issues with myself. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have religious or moral issues with masturbation. I’m just not that good at it. I’ll get there, eventually. But it’s not the same as his hands on me. But last night was about forgiving myself.

The first step is admitting you were wrong; and then rubbing one out to make all better. Or something like that.

Happy New Year!


14 Responses to “Make-Up Sex”

  • ancilla ksst

    Make up sex with yourself is a great idea! I’ve never tried that.

    • Rye

      Sometimes I’m so much meaner to myself than others can be. And sometimes I just need to have it out and then reconnect with me so I can move on. I actually feel much better today. I hope it works for you if you ever need to try it.

  • Tamar

    I like this whole ‘make up sex with yourself’ idea…I may have to try this sometime!

  • Curvaceous Dee

    Make-up masturbation is an utterly excellent idea. And hooray for orgasms that you need towels for after 🙂

    xx Dee

    • Rye

      It worked very well for me. I was surprised. I thought that I would have another dip in the aftermath, but it really shot me out of my funk. I think they may need to become a regular thing 🙂

  • Kayla Lords

    Make up sex with yourself sounds great! I may have to mention that to a certain someone and see what he thinks.

    And yes, you definitely get better with practice. Promise!

    • Rye

      I am finding that out. Though my Doxy is certainly helping.

      Hope he is amenable to the idea. 🙂

  • Malin James

    I need to do a lot more of this myself – I can be terrible to me… thank you for the wonderful reminder to be good to yourself.

    • Rye

      I’m glad it helped. We need to be better to ourselves more often. Even if that’s not a gleeful orgasm. Take care. Be nice to you sometimes.

  • Rayne MIllaray

    You know…I never thought of make up sex with myself before. Huh. You’re a motherfuckin’ genius. And I love this piece. 🙂

    • Rye

      Thanks. I hope it works well for you. It’s be a fun new trip for me. 🙂

  • Cammies on the Floor

    I love how you had sex with yourself to forgive yourself and make it all better. So brilliant

  • J S Morbius

    Sometimes being alone can be just as much fun as being with someone

  • Beauty's Punishment

    That took a turn that I didn’t expect! Good for you for treating yourself right.


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