I don’t know why, but everyone has this preconceived notion that all Dominants are scary and mean. Don’t get me wrong, dominants can be very frightening indeed. However, Doms can also be sweet, caring, and giving. While a dominant often knows exactly what they want, they are also protective by nature. Control, or the appearance of control does not translate to mean (though if a woman is in charge in the business world she is automatically a bitch). Even if they are not in a monogamous relationship, while you are with them, most don’t want to share. They care about your well-being and safety. ‘If you break it, you buy it’ tends to apply. If they push you too hard, they do what they can to correct the problem. Breaking a sub is not good for your reputation I guess. Obviously everyone is different. I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt.
Anyway, not that Sir broke me, but after Sunday night, I definitely needed fixed. And my Dom knew exactly what I needed. It is a perfect system. He gets the satisfaction of being amazing and I get some sense of getting back to where he wants me to be. Where I need to be. So he doesn’t turn into the scary Dom that everyone assumes he is.
*And yes, I am totally sucking up to Sir with my post title*